Whether you’re with friends, immediate or extended family, spending so much time together can be challenging – particularly if relationships aren’t always straightforward. Here are some tips to help everything run smoothly.   

  • Be prepared if there’s likely to be conflict. If Uncle Keith is often grumpy, your sister sometimes makes snide comments, or your dad is likely to criticize your job, be prepared. Don’t expect them to have changed – see if you can change how you react instead.   
  • Be realistic – life isn’t movie-perfect. Your flight might be delayed, the kids might have the odd tantrum, and the food might be overdone. If you expect perfection, you’ll be setting yourself up for a fall.  
  • Let things slide. Little snappy moments don’t have to escalate. It’s easy to get fraught and start getting on each other’s nerves, so try to let minor things go.  
  • Keep a sense of humor. Holidays are meant to be fun – so be lighthearted, and try to stay positive and patient. 
  • If you have young children, stick to their routine. If they’re totally out of sync and not getting enough sleep, they’re likely to be fractious and upset.  
  • Stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison really is the thief of joy, so try to be happy with what you have.  
  • Take some time out just for you. This might mean a walk, spending an afternoon fishing or golfing, having a nap, or booking a massage. A little space can make all the difference. 

Spending time over holidays and festivals with loved ones is a great way to build happy memories, and to become even closer. So it’s important to find ways to make these moments work for everyone. 

 

 

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