In 1943, American psychologist Abraham Maslow placed belonging in the middle of his hierarchy of needs, believing that relationships, friendships, and connections are vital for people to thrive.  

Belonging to a group and feeling connected has been shown to make us feel less depressed, happier, and healthier – and could even help us live longer. 

 

Boost your belongingness  

If you’re feeling a bit adrift, it’s worth putting yourself out there and finding your tribe. Here are a few suggestions to help make it happen. 

  • Join a group. From an early age, we’re drawn towards people with similar interests, tastes, and styles to us. Meeting others who share your interests is one of the best ways to feel a sense of belonging. Local meet-up groups can be a great way to find those people. 
  • Create your own. Can’t find a group that suits your interests? Take the plunge and set one up yourself, and you’ll soon meet likeminded people.  
  • Volunteer. There are loads of places that could do with an extra pair of hands – local hospitals, churches, food banks, or community groups are good places to start.  

Remember, you might not instantly feel at home in a new group, particularly if the group is already established or you’re a bit shy. But stick it out, and you could create some really strong connections.  

 

References

  1. https://ourworldindata.org/happiness-and-friends
  2. https://www.psychologies.co.uk/importance-connecting-group
  3. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-need-to-belong-2795393
  4. http://psychology.iresearchnet.com/social-psychology/interpersonal-relationships/need-to-belong/
  5. https://livingwell.org.au/well-being/five-ways-to-mental-wellbeing/connect-with-others/
  6. https://nobaproject.com/modules/the-psychology-of-groups